A while back, I opened up the blogging hotline to accept your most curious and burning questions. As promised, here’s an answer to every question …. here we go!
LINDSEY asked …..
Was your pregnancy planned?
Have you decided on a birth photographer?
Great questions! Kamden was *NOT* planned. To say Husband and I were surprised is even an understatement. If you haven’t read how we found out, read this post! Now that the shock is gone, we are over-the-moon excited and anxiously awaiting his arrival in December.
As for the birth photographer, I have someone selected and will contact them sometime this week to confirm our spot on her schedule. I think she’ll be great capturing this sacred event in our lives!
REGINA asked ……
How do you achieve the balance I perceive you have?
Wow, Regina, you think really highly of me — thank you! My life is balanced, in part, because I do not have a full-time job and I am (slowly) learning to use the word no. I guarantee you, my life has not always been this way. Immediately after college, I began working in corporate marketing and business development. My work schedule averaged 75-85 hours, plus traveling and managing special events across the U.S. Obviously, this position took a toll on me physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I was also a newlywed and time spent with Husband was a rare gem. With his support, in February 2009, I submitted my two-week notice and instantly felt human again. Fast forward to October 2012, a week before my departure to Haiti for another mission trip, I had a complete breakdown. Once again, I was spinning out of control with to-do lists and over-committing myself to this and that. You can read that heartbreaking post here. The repercussions of that dreadful event continues to stabilize (ground) me today. Now that I am pregnant, my priorities are even more in tune to my faith, marriage, family, and health.
LICI asked several questions ……
What’s one thing you’re afraid to try, but really want to?
I would love to compete on Food Network’s Chopped. It’s one of my favorite cooking shows (the other is Bravo’s Top Chef) but I’m afraid I’d forget how to boil water. Besides, who comes up with the mystery basket ingredients anyway?! And they expect me to create a tasty dish in 20 minutes?!
If money was not an issue, what would become possible for you?
First, I would insist Husband and I travel. It’s a dream of mine that I stand on every continent and taste as many cuisines as possible. While my passport has been “stamped” a few times, his is completely blank … and I don’t even know where it is because I was abroad when it arrived! True story: Husband and I were scheduled to go to Mexico with friends but his passport did not arrive in time. Thus, I went to Mexico WITHOUT him! I would also like to do more mission and volunteer work, domestic and international. I hope Kamden has a compassionate heart and desire to help others, as well as a willing spirit to step outside his comfort zone and experience new places and things.
I’d probably open a cooking studio for people (children and adults) to bake, cook, and learn knife skills and new recipes. It would be filled with the most fabulous appliances and every utensil imaginable. I imagine children’s birthday parties, ladies’ nights, couples’ dates, and family gatherings. Where there is food, there is love. In this perfect scenario, I would not have a dairy allergy. I’d eat gourmet macaroni and cheese (made with 4 different kinds of cheese, no less), buttered lobster tails, and ice cream sundaes with chocolate ganache, rainbow sprinkles, homemade whipped cream, and cherries on top. I love rainbow sprinkles.
My cousin played “Your Song” for her baby in the womb.
Does Baby K have a special womb song?
Very interesting question! I’ve heard of women putting headphones around their bellies so their baby could hear the music, but I’ve not done that. I’m positive Baby K hears music playing in the car and in the house while I’m working because I have a tendency to turn the volume up loud and practice Jagger-like dance moves.
What is your favorite song by the artist Pink?
I don’t listen to much music by Pink, but if “Raise Your Glass” or “Just Give Me A Reason” is playing, I’m singing or humming along.
I know you’re a Texas mama, but if you had to
live in another state, where would it be and why?
Ohhh, this is easy-peasy. I would live in KENTUCKY. I have oodles of family who’d keep Baby K at the drop of a hat, not to mention the great-aunts and great-grandmothers who’d spoil him rotten. But it would be really dumb if Husband left his job and I would miss our home (and huge kitchen) and friends and family.
How long did it take you to plan your wedding?
My mom was my official wedding planner and together we spent six months coordinating a spectacular event. Seriously, it was an incredible day filled with family, friends, excellent food, beautiful calla lilies, baby piglets and farm tractors. Post-wedding and reception at the church, the after-party began at my parent’s house and on the farm. The after-after-party took on a life of its own in the lobby and pool area of the hotel where we (and out-of-town guests) stayed.
What’s something you and Husband do harmoniously?
I asked Husband this question and he replied, “make a baby …. and our marriage.”
He’s absolutely right. Our marriage is very easy because neither of us have a reason (or desire) to make it complicated. Loving him is as natural as breathing and we work well together. Since meeting in 2003, we’ve constructed a barn for the horses, installed new corner fence posts on our property, painted the interior of our home, and, of course, made a baby.
MARIEJOSE says …..
I’ve followed your blog for a while and although none of us are perfect, you project balance, happiness and stability in many ways. In recent posts, I’ve noticed you keep mentioning how you are scared of not being a great mom. It makes me wonder why you would think of such a thing? Even if the balance, happiness and stability you project isn’t always there, I’m sure you have support from Husband, your family and friends. Right?
I’m so fascinated by these comments about my projected life balance, y’all are really cute! First of all, I could NOT have this balance (or project to have balance) without the support of Husband and the unconditional love from family and friends. They are my home base. In response to the mothering comments, I think it’s a natural concern for a pregnant woman. I’m fortunate to have an amazing mom who exemplified who and what a great mother is. Additionally, I have more wonderful examples from aunts, grandmothers, cousins, and friends. They are the reason I am so comfortable around babies and children. Unless you know me from years back, you probably don’t realize how much experience I have. There are 14 people in particular — two sets of triplets, a family of six, and two brothers — I helped raise as a babysitter or nanny. It’s hard for me to believe that the Ford triplets are in COLLEGE …… geeeez I’m old! Regardless of my previous experience though, I don’t think I’m fully prepared for what (and who) is coming this December. Kamden is going to rock my world, change it significantly, and I’ll be better for it. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous about his arrival though. If I remove the facade and am completely transparent, the distance between Texas and Kentucky (i.e. my family) is a large part of my anxiety level. I wish there was a way to eliminate the 786 miles between us.
J.B. asked ……
I just finished reading 50 Shades. What do I read next?
As much as I enjoyed 50 Shades, The Crossfire Series by Sylvia Day is better. Gideon and Eva are hot, hot, HOT. If you want more, read The Stark Trilogy by J. Kenner. I just started reading another series, but I’ll hold on my opinion/review until I finish.
MOM asked ……
I’ve forgotten already … where are you registered?
Awwww, Mom and her cute forgetful self!
I’m registered at Babies R’Us and Amazon.com. I hope folks will utilize the convenient shipping options offered ….. free ship-to-store (Babies R’Us in Fort Worth) or free shipping to our home.
Well, there you have my first (of what I hope will be more) installment of Ask Nicole. This was fun, I don’t know why I was too scared to try this before.